What do we (men) want? If that’s not the million dollar question for women I don’t know what is. Men are about as fickle as they come when it comes down to what they want with women. In any given day I can go from, wanting a gf, wanting nothing, just wanting to get laid, wanting a friend with benefits…the list goes on and on. The real problem is that a man’s brain is constantly changing. There is never a day where we think or feel the same thing. Which for you women, could make you quite crazy. The simple fact of the matter is that men are very difficult creatures to understand.
I’ve been asked repeatedly what it is about men that makes us so easily swayed. I wish I could tell you what the fuck is wrong with us. I can tell you that there’s no right or wrong answer. But when you find the right person, and it works. It shouldn’t be a constant struggle. You shouldn’t have to work every day to make something work. That’s not to say that relationships aren’t work, but when you’re with the right person things should just click. I know that for me personally, I second guess myself a lot. Maybe that comes from not having found the right person, or maybe that comes from my past but what really bothers me is that second guessing.
Some men just want sex. Some men want a companion. The trick is to not try to change one into the other. If I am just looking to get laid, you’re not going to become my girlfriend even if I tell you it’s what I want. Point blank, if a guy says he’s just looking for sex. Newsflash ladies, he’s just looking for sex. You’re not going to get him to change his mind no matter how many rom com’s tell you that it happens. It doesn’t. Take a hint. If you meet a guy and he tells you he’s gay are you gonna keep trying to hookup with him? I’d assume not. Same principles apply here ladies.
What I’d really like to stress here is that what men want is not something you can just write down on a piece of paper, or snap your fingers and make happen. We change. And so do women for the record. What you need to do is be open and communicative and understand what you’re getting yourself into ahead of time. That way you limit your chance of getting hurt. Listen ladies, and listen carefully. You have 99% of the power when it comes to men. You hold all the cards and open all the doors. I’d hate to be the bearer of bad news but when things go wrong it can be attributed to you not looking at the signs presented to you. You own us. Period, end of story. Take this power and use it.