The winter time and Christmas being around the corner has got me in the spirit. So I started thinking about this friend of mine who made a pretty exact lists of some of her do’s and don’ts. Well I am not sure I necessarily Agree
Someone has to explain to me what it is about women that makes them have like this mental check list of what they look for in a guy. Mental, or an actual hand written note, either or. But regardless, I can’t figure out what the purpose of this is. How often in life does something go as planned? Or more so according to something you’ve actually written down? Life is an ever changing landscape, and you are its biggest moving piece. If you actually do have a list of things you’re looking for, be prepared to change it constnatly.
Ultimately, there is no chance you are going to find a person based on some preconceived ideal man or woman you have drawn up in your mind. Unless you’re the girl who will one day capture my heart…(pause for laughter, or applause depending who you are) Anyway, give yourself the chance of meeting the right person. Don’t pigeon toe yourself into a box. You will eventually meet the person you’re supposed to be. And it won’t be any sooner or later than it’s supposed to be. No list, whether personality wise or physically will ever match up to the person you end up meeting. Because at the end of the day, the person you end up with will be so much more than what you’ve written on that piece of paper.
Listen ladies, I can’t fault you for wanting to at least get down on paper the things you look for in a dude. And to be honest, it makes sense. You’re all neurotic enough to think that making a list will actually help. But it won’t. Only thing it will do is occupy your mind while you dream about the person you’re supposed to be with. Ultimately, fate will win out and you’ll end up meeting that person exactly when you’re supposed to be. Don’t think something you have in your head will have to be what you need to end up with. You could end up excluding yourself from something great. And ladies, please…if you find a guy that’s near perfect, do NOT try to change him into being that exact match. You’re only going to lose him.