You’re a douchebag,and I am too

On this Valentines Day, I sat alone and came to a pretty basic realization that yes, bitches are crazy but it’s 100% our fault. (men). It’s our fault as men that they act the way they do. It’s our fault as men for their untrusting behavior and skepticism towards dating and love. We fuck with your minds, tell you lies, and expect that you’ll be ok with all of that. No wonder women are out of their minds. We’ve been conditioning them to expect to be degraded, cheated on, and all around fucked with.

You know, I am definitely not boasting or bragging and certainly not proud of the fact that I’ve played my fair share of women. And you know what, I’ve been played myself. That shit sucks. You live and you learn though. And ultimately, the games, the lying, the cheating, the bullshit, that’s what fucks people up long term. You can’t blame someone for being irrational or untrusting when they deal with what some of us have dealt with in our dating lives. But at the end of the day, who’s to blame?

My feeling is insecurity. Insecurity is at the root of every lie, cheat, hit, etc. Someone’s uncomfortability  in their own skin is ultimately at play in these instances. A cheater cheats not because they’re necessarily a horrible person although one would argue they are. A person cheats for that feeling of wanting. For that desirability only gained through a sexual conquest. A lot of times people don’t cheat for any reason other then the opportunity presents itself. It’s a marvelous thing to be wanted. It makes people do things they certainly will regret later.

What it really boils down to though is mens ability to alter a woman’s self worth. A woman’s ego, and her entire ability to trust or love. Break that once, and I’m sure it’s rare to find fixed again. When men lie, cheat, and in the worst cases physically and verbally abuse a woman we are breaking them down to a worthless feeling that I’m not sure I could ever understand. Men who do these acts are pathetic. And sadly, men have ruined women for years and it takes a lot of help to get back to being able to trust and feel worthy of love again. The point I’m trying to make here is that everyone is guilty of misdeeds. Everyone is guilty of fucking up. But to often and to common is a broken woman. This is unacceptable and downright sad. Everyone has the ability to make or break a person. If you’re incapable of loving someone I get it, but don’t break someone because you can.

Thankful

There’s always that lengthy duration of sadness, regret, and fear when a relationship ends. You look back at the time spent and wonder what you could have done differently. Was there anything more you could do? Was she the one? Was your inability to adapt the driving wedge? You take an extra hard look at what has transpired over the course of the relationship and ultimately you’re just left with more questions than answers. At the end of the day for me, I’m left with sadness because I just lost someone I obviously cared deeply about but more so I’m left with an overwhelming feeling of thankfulness.

I know that thankfulness would be an odd feeling to have once a relationship is over. Especially depending upon how badly things ended. But for me, at least this time around, I’m thankful. Why you might ask? This girl, amongst all the many women in my life fundamentally changed who I am and how I act. Truthfully I waited my whole life to meet her. I waited this long to absolutely head over heels fall in love with someone and I’m glad that I had it and I’m even more glad of who I had it with. It’s a special thing love. It really is. It’s not something that you can force and it’s not something you can plan but sometimes you just end up stumbling into something great even if it doesn’t work out.

For me, I’m going to really take a moment and look back at the awesome times we had. The first kiss, the first dinner, date, everything. I’m going to look back at all of that with such fond memories that even if I’m not in the greatest of places today, tomorrow I know I’m going to be glad I shared them. You don’t plan on breaking up with someone when you get together. You don’t plan on things not working out and perhaps that’s why it’s so hard to let someone go. All you do is see the good times the great moments you shared. That’s why breaking up is hard to do. But as a relationship wears on I think you realize more and more whether this is a person you can spend the rest of your life with or not. And for me, I’m not entirely sure I got the opportunity to answer that question but the seperation will inevitably be the thing that makes me realize for better or for worse, what we had was special.

I don’t pretend to have the answers. In actuality I probably have none. I only own my life experiences and ups and downs and the feelings that are associated with them. For the time being I’m going to appreciate that I’m sad. I’m going to accept that I’m upset because you know what? All that really means is that what we shared was real. That what we had meant something. I’d rather feel like shit any day of the week to know that the time I spent with someone wasn’t for nothing. As funny as it sounds, I’m thankful for this broken heart, I’m thankful for this feeling of shit because I know deep down that she’s changed me. And I’m better off for it.

For a while there I thought it’d be unlikely I fall in love. For a while I honestly felt as if I was going to be a single bachelor my whole life and you know the truth of the matter is I didn’t necessarily mind that. I was worried that I lacked the fundamental capabilities to love someone. And now I know that’s not the case. Now I know that I can fight for love and I can appreciate love and I can care for someone deeper than I ever imagined possible. That I would be willing to put someone else first. That I’d for once in my life stop being the selfish prick that I am and truly and genuinely with all my heart love someone. That’s a powerful gift I was given and something I will never take for granted again.

Unfortunately, not everything in life works out. And unfortunately not everyone is meant to be with you forever. And that’s ok. Things happen for a reason in life and at the conclusion of each day you have to just smile and be thankful for the days you’ve lived and the days to come. I don’t believe in mistakes. I don’t believe in regrets and for me I’m happy as hell that I met this person. I’m incredibly blessed to have shared the time I have with her because I’m a better person for having met her. So I took my licks, and I took my bruises but now I can smile and look back fondly on the time we spent together. I can live without a regret and know that the pain I’m feeling now is because of the love we shared.

Breakups suck. Losing someone from your life is difficult and it’s absolutely never going to get easier. Take your time to feel bad and take your time to feel sorry but don’t find yourself lost in a funk. Allow yourself the time you think you need to grieve and then it’s time to stand up again. Life is too short to be anything but happy everyday. Life is about falling down and willing yourself to get back up and the fight off the ground is what makes life special. It’s not about the amount of times we get knocked down but the amount of times we get back up. Life is an incredibly precarious, gentle, fragile thing and you should never take it for granted. Be thankful for the time you have with someone in your life because tomorrow there are no guarantees.

Unconditional

So, long time no speak. That’s more about my life than yours but I’m hoping to continue to contribute here as frequent as these things pop into my head. So here we go.

Love is supposed to be unconditional right? But how is that remotely possible? I’m not entirely sure about you but when I love, it’s conditional. It’s 100% conditional. And that condition is that I expect to be loved back. Is there anything worse in the world than being the lone person in love while in a relationship? You try so hard, for so long to make things work. You try time and time again to make your feelings be known. Sometimes though, for one reason or another fate intervenes. But I ask again, what makes people think that love was meant to be unconditional?

I don’t buy that. Love is not unconditional, nor should it be. Love should never be a compromise. Love should be shared. Love shouldn’t be a series of mistakes, fights, arguments, or negotiating. Love should be easy. But it seldom if ever is. Fair or not love needs to be a partnership. Love needs to be more than two people caring for one another and more than people trying to make each other happy. I find it frequently true that love is hard. Duh right? It’s difficult. It’s impossible. And it needs to be. Because if love were easy it wouldn’t be worth having. For me, in order for a relationship to work, love has to be and should be conditional.

I find this pretty evident. I mean, who wants to put themselves out there and love unconditionally? To be honest with you, I’ve loved and I’ve lost more so in my life than I would ever like to feel again. For me, it’s not about loss it’s about the regrets of mistakes I made not that of what someone else has done. I own who I am. I own my actions, I own my feelings, and I own my love. I don’t give it freely and expect very little in return when I do. And because of that I expect to have it returned. But unfortunately that’s not always the case.

Please allow me to contradict myself for a moment. Love should be and will always be unconditional. That is to say that you should be able and willing to love someone without expecting anything in return. Selflessly. That’s what makes love incredibly unique as well as difficult to find. The selflessness of being able to open yourself up for the ultimate crush. The ultimate pain. Not being loved. When I say that love is meant to be conditional it is that I don’t want to ever feel the sting of loving unconditionally and not being loved in return.

Things happen in life. Some good, some bad. But one thing you shouldn’t be afraid to do is place a condition on your love. And why shouldn’t you? If your need to provide love is conditioned upon being loved in return, treated fairly, respected, adored, then why shouldn’t you place conditions on your love? Love is the ultimate sacrifice. You provide someone the ammunition to foster a pain inside of you that few experiences can levy. So I say to you, why should love be unconditional?

Cosmic Significance

Nothing happens for  a reason. There is no cosmic significance for why shit in our lives takes place and there sure as fuck is no such thing as soul mates. I’m a fool. I am a wannabe hopeless romantic and a complete fool. You know what happens when you give someone your heart? They crush you. I will never give someone that power over me again. Never. Where do you go form the bottom? How do you crawl back up?

You may find yourself depressed, in a bad mood, feeling like shit. And you know what we’ve all been there. Someone once asked me why is it that sometimes when you’re sleeping with someone it’s never more than that? That when you see a romantic comedy things always find a way of falling into place for them, but rarely in real life? I couldn’t really answer that, I am by all accounts, and quite clearly not God.

I’ve had a lot of sex in my life. Some meaningful, and most not. But why is it that seemingly every time I find someone I care about or begin to develop feelings for someone it always blows up? Why is it that each and every time I allow myself to wonder what it would be like to be in a meaningful healthy relationship with someone it falls apart? Idk maybe it’s just me. Perhaps I just give off the aura of a guy just looking to have fun. Who knows. For some reason when I finally found someone that I really couldn’t imagine my life without, here I am completely alone. Again. Maybe it’s just meant to be.

It’s not supposed to be like this anymore. You’re supposed to fall in love. You’re supposed to find the person you’re going to be with. And yet here I am floundering about not having an utter clue. I won’t pretend it’s just me. I’m not that stupid nor that vain. I just thought that eventually, especially now, that if I felt a spark I so seldom feel with someone that would be the cue for this to be something fucking spectacular. And yet, here I am, back at the start. No closer to the finish line and wondering what’s it all about again. Dating’s hard. It is a game. A lot of times you trick yourself into thinking that if you’re just fucking someone that it’s fine it’s what you want. But deep down, you know you want more. So I am not going to do that anymore. No more lying for me about what I want. No more fucking bullshit anymore. There comes a time when I think we are all fed up with the games, the bullshit, and the nonsense and you just say enough. It’s time to get to a place where I’m truly happy. Or you’re truly happy.

I’m not sure what has changed in me. Maybe I’m just a sucker. A fool. Maybe the belief that everything happens in the first place is just stupid. Who knows? At the end of the day it’s a nice thing to believe that your life falls into place and everything makes sense sometime. I think for me, whether I care to admit it or not, I’ll always believe in fate, in soul mates, in love. Because really who doesn’t want to believe in those things? Who doesn’t want to hope against hope that something magical can happen to us? Go big or go home. Love big or not at all. Put yourself out there in the hopes that the worst thing you can get is a broken heart. I’ll tell you I’ve felt more alive these past two weeks then I have in a long, long time.

Mistakes and Reflections

I think it’s a fair assertion that nobody is perfect. I am certainly far from perfect. We all make mistakes. It is what those mistakes ultimately cost us that makes fucking up the worst. It could be saying something stupid, not doing something you say you will, cheating, lying, it can be anything. The point is that people will always no matter what, fuck up. It’s how we treat those mistakes it’s how we treat those transgressions that allow us to grow as a person. Trust is the hardest thing to gain and ultimately the easiest thing for someone to lose.

I have a hard time opening up and trusting someone. Actually I think I fundamentally lack the ability to trust. I don’t think anything in my life has ever scared me. I’ve been cheated on before but I have a zero tolerance for that. I have a cut and dry approach to that and if you cheat on me you’re done. We are done. No real thought goes into that. So why do you think I find it impossible to trust? I have a great family. Great friends. Nobody has ever done any real malice to me. My life has been completely blessed. What is wrong with me? Is there something wrong with me even?

I’ve noticed that I have a hard time believing what I am told from a significant other in regards to how they feel about me. Nothing crazy like I don’t believe what they did last night but I can not for some reason trust that they care about me the way they do. That’s something I know I have to work on. Something that me as a significant other in someone’s life I have to work on. Again, I admit that I am not perfect. People make mistakes. The way we go about getting beyond those hurts and mistakes is what ultimately allows us to grow as a person.

You ever hear that old adage, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me? That is 100% true. I will be very truthful when I say I have never cheated on someone. I don’t get the thought process behind it. Why throw away something you’ve spent time building to act on impulse and lust? I don’t understand it. I don’t get why people feel the need to satisfy a void or a perceived void with someone else. If your relationship is truly lacking something, sleeping around will not help. Communication, trust, love, these are the things that will ultimately get you through.

Ladies and gentlemen, sometimes people just do shitty things. There’s no excuse for them, and ultimately how you handle that destroying is what is going to allow you to mature. Have you been cheated on? I’m sure you have. Have you been verbally abused? I really hope not. Let me tell you a story. I once fell for a girl. Pretty hard. We were never official. We never established what we were. I found out she was hooking up with someone else. I was very hurt but was I allowed to be? Should I have been? Ask yourself these questions. For the first time in my life I am not mad, I am not sad, I am curious. I am wondering why someone would do these things.

Every now and then in life you get thrown a curveball and you swing and miss horribly. I’m sitting in one of those situations right now. But ultimately there’s only one thing to do. Get up and go for another at bat. In life it’s not about the amount of times you get knocked down, it’s about the times you get up. Right now I’m down. Very, very, down. But tomorrow I’ll wake up and feel a little less worse and each day the pain will go away. Tell yourself that you’re special and know that eventually you’ll find the right person. Until then, go big or don’t go at all.

 

Letters To Friends

I know that I repeat myself way too much but honestly, somethings are worth reiterating.

In simple, brutal honesty, nothing in life is easy. Things don’t fall out of the sky and into our laps. We don’t wish upon a star and win the lottery. These things don’t happen. So what is there to do about it? Whine? Complain? Cry? Yea, I’m sure at times life is so fucked up and shitty you just want to give up. But that’s not the answer. When the going gets tough, the tough get going. What a cheesy cliche thing to say but I mean it. There is very little if any that you have the ability to control in life. So why if you can’t are you going to try? You’re just going to end up frustrated, tired, and extremely sad.

Things happen to people in life. Good things happen to bad people, and bad things happen to good people. You have no control over this. Life is like a very well rehearsed song or movie. It has its beginning, the middle, and the end. Trust me, if you’re reading this you’re likely not even to the middle part yet. But seriously, at your age, at this stage in your life, things are not meant to make sense. Things are not meant to be going perfectly. Life is about mistakes. Life is about heartaches and disappointments. Because, after all the shit gets piled onto your head, at the end of the day there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. At some point you come out the other side better than you were before.

Look, in life, people will come into your life and people will come out of your life. There is seriously absolutely not a fucking thing you can do about this. Just know in your gut that the people who are meant to stay there, will. The ones that are meant to leave, will. And just let the chips fall where they may. Everything in life does happen for a reason. You just have to believe that. There is no shortcuts there are no easy answers so stop looking for them. You will eventually find the person you’re meant to be with, you’ll eventually be happy in your work and find your passion. It just might not be today.

Life is, and will always be incredibly difficult. Ultimately what it comes down to is how you are able to cope with the everyday drama, bullshit, heartaches, and multitudes of ups and downs throughout your life. Nothing will come easy to you I promise you that, and if it does congratulations someone upstairs must like you. For the rest of us schmucks we’re gonna have to slug it out, day in day out, week in week out, year in year out. I promise one day things will make sense. That one day everything will fall into place. I just can’t tell you when that will be. We all have those epiphanies here and there and this maybe one of mine. I’m very good at dishing out advice but seldom adhere to it. So for me, I’m going to start listening to more of what I preach. For you, I hope you take what is good in your life and hold onto it and throw the bad shit out. Life is hard enough as it is without useless people to clutter up your days.

I will be honest and tell you that I’ve made a fair share of bad decisions and own a plethora of regrets. But I truly try to forget the past. It’s there for a reason it’s behind you. It isn’t going to change. Something that happened a year ago will NEVER change. You can’t alter your past only shape your future. The choices you make today will definitely impact your tomorrow but once today is gone that’s it, it’s history. You can not, and can’t look back. Keep an eye on the horizon and look FORWARD. You don’t want to say I wish I did this, or I wish I did that. You want to say, I’m going to do this or I’m going to do that. Plan to do something amazing and do it. Life is short and when you have the chance live it up and be positive and look forward. Take your past and allow it to shape who you are today and make that the best person you can possibly be.

Unexpectedly, Expected

I just realized that I have no relationships what so ever with any girl I’ve ever seriously, or casually dated. What do you think that says about me? Once in a while you’ll meet a girl that has you second guessing everything about yourself when you meet her. She changes it all. But it seems like whenever you meet those game changers things never last too long. Fate has a funny way of bringing people together and yet almost simultaneously pulling them apart. Who you are as a person, is it something that’s predetermined when you’re born, or rather who you become over time? Who you become, and what you do with your life, is this something you can control? Or rather something that fate has just cruelly twisted together to make you continually second guessing yourself each step of the way?

Sometimes I find myself unable to imagine myself not being alone. That’s not to say that it’s what I want or would ever remotely want. But it’s something that can keep a guy up at night. You want to be the guy who gets the girl. The guy who meets a girl, falls madly in love and everything just clicks into place. Unfortunately that’s rare. I want to be the guy that gets the girl. Who wouldn’t? Sometimes you think you’ve found her and you have her and it just ends up that you’re only going to for a short while. Honestly, whatever happened to being HONEST. To telling someone exactly, how you feel, being completely up front and real. What happened to that? Why is it so much about playing games and all the incessant nonsense bullshit that goes along with it?

In life, fate only takes you so far, the rest my dear friends, is up to you. A lot of things in life boil down to chemistry and timing. It’s an easy cop out to say that everything happens for a reason even when I actually truly believe that. But in all honesty, it’s a scape goat. We say that to make ourselves feel better the day after we get dumped. Or after someone we know dies in a car accident. The simple fact of the matter is that life is messy, and not all people get a happy ending. Sometimes you can have your cake, you just don’t get to eat it. Sometimes fate plays tricks on you and gives you a glimmer of hope only to yank it away seconds later. I believe it’s possible in an instant to know you can’t spend your life without someone. But why so often are those same feelings not necessarily reciprocated?

Truthfully, dating is hard. Love is hard. Life IS hard. It’s hard on it’s own, you don’t need to be adding to it by trying to force things that aren’t there. When something is truly meant to be….It. Will. Be. Round pegs, don’t fit in square holes no matter how hard we force them in. A lot of times for me, it’s not whether I’ll meet the right girl or not, but rather if it’ll be the right time for both of us. Timing is everything in life. Seconds turn into minutes, that turn into hours, that turn into days. But when you really take a look at it, a minute here and there could be life altering for one person or any person for that matter.

So what am I trying to say here? Tough for me to decipher amongst these incessant ramblings. But I guess life is really tough. You get a lot of ups and you get a lot of downs. But when it comes down to it, trust yourself. Trust who you are as a person and what you want out of your life. If you get butterflies the first time you meet a guy then ask him out. If you kiss a girl and you feel a spark make sure you don’t let her get away. If you get the opportunity to kiss a beautiful girl, go for it. Life is short, you really don’t know how many chances you are going to have to make memories.

What I really think life is about is love. Love for your family. Love for your friends. And love for the people around you. It’s about finding love and keeping it. That doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to be lucky in love, but when you find something that feels right hold on to it. I will readily admit to letting good things in life pass me by. I will readily admit to being afraid to speak up and afraid to go for what I want. Those amount to some massive regrets in my life. But I’ve gotten so much better at that now. I’m no longer afraid to voice my feelings or opinions on what I want and what matters to me. And neither should you.

Life is what you make of it. Love is what you make of it. If you meet someone you can’t be with out, tell them that. It may hurt to be rejected but it will hurt a lot more to second guess yourself for 40-50 years. Carpe diem. Seize the day. Go for what you want for fucks sake! Nobody is going to give you anything in life. You have to earn it. If that means getting rejected fine, so what? If that means getting hurt, hey nobody said this was going to be easy. But at the end of the day, you want to be able to say I fucking went for it each and every day of my life and I am proud on how I lived.

Valentines Day

(Disclaimer: I hate valentines day.)

Not like this should be any sort of surprise to any of you but truthfully, this is not an actual holiday. This is quite possibly the quintessential example of capitalism at its finest. This is a Hallmark holiday. A chocolate companies dream. Restaurants love February for this day alone. The simple fact of the matter is that this holiday was established to have an economic impact on an otherwise drab month. I may be a cynic, but seriously people if you need a day in February to tell your significant other you love them, you’re already fucked.

Truthfully guys, and yes I’m pointing this out to strictly the men, you’ll be ruined if you don’t do something for your girl on Valentines day. I don’t recommend that. But, you’d also do yourself a huge favor by doing things on days other then Valentines day. I’m a big proponent on getting flowers, chocolates, gifts, etc. at all random times. You will earn a LOT more points doing that versus doing the generic V-Day bullshit. You will do yourself a big favor, by being creative on other days. Girls love spontaneous gifts, and doing something just for the sake of you loving her. Trust me on this one guys, write that down.

Look, I hate this day. I have always hated this day, I will always hate this day. That’s not going to change. Whether I’m single, married, divorced whatever, I will hate this day. It just sucks. For single people it’s a wonderful reminder that you’re single and alone. For someone in a relationship, it’s a forced spending day on things that you can be doing for your significant other anyway. Ultimately, the day is a sham. It’s a burden on people one way or another, single or happily married.

Ultimately guys, today’s not about you. It’s about her. It’s your chance to prove you love her, even though I truly hope you do this on more than today. I’m a big fan of big extravagant gestures even if it’s on Valentines Day. But go nuts. Tell her you love her in the ways you know how. If you’re ordinarily a loser, go big, it can’t hurt. I also recommend doing something down the road a month from now to earn some additional brownie points. It will work. Trust me. Today may be about a fake holiday, but it doesn’t mean you can’t tell her you love her.

How Long Do You Play The Game?

God I wish I knew. This is THE question. There’s no answer to that. I’m still waiting to figure it out myself! I mean I feel as if the game gets pretty old pretty quick. Who honestly loves being out there routinely dating never really progressing past a couple of dates? I’d venture to say no one. It’s a difficult thing finding love…If it were easy it wouldn’t be worth it. Look ultimately if playing the game were easy things would just fall into place with the first person you dated. But it’s not like that, and that’s half the fun of the journey.

I likin playing the game to the movie 500 Days of Summer. Joseph Gordon Levitt’s character falls in love with a girl who he thinks is the one. (Zooey Deschanel) But turns out she’s not. It’s a difficult thing getting over a broken heart. It’s tough when you meet someone who you think is perfect for you and the feelings are not reciprocated. When you meet the right person, things will work. You won’t have to force it, you won’t have to fake it. Things will at the right time, fall into place. You can’t fit a square peg in a round hole. It’s not made to fit.

Someone once asked me what I thought was the most important thing when dating someone. My thing? Is that first meeting. If there’s not a spark the very second or first few minutes when meeting someone you’re fooling yourself if you think you can engineer that feeling. It’s just not going to happen. Don’t try to force something into being something that it’s not. Dating’s a game folks. You got your good games and your bad games. Sometimes you slump, sometimes you’re batting 1000. The point is to treat every slump or streak as the same. There is NO REASON to get bent out of shape. “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.”

The thing I like to ask people is, would you date yourself? Pretty simple question right? Well if the answer isn’t an unequivocal yes then you got bigger problems then finding a date for Friday night. Look good relationships stem from confidence. Confidence in yourself and who you are is what’s going to attract the opposite sex to you. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not and don’t think you’re not good enough for someone. Everyone is special in their own unique fucked up way. So don’t go hating. Somewhere there is a round peg for every round hole. Probably should have used a square peg, square hole line there. Sickos.

2012 Wishes For You

2011 has been one hell of a year. I typically like to take a day before the new year to sit back, reflect, and think of all the stupid shit I’ve done over the last 12 months. And believe me, there was a lot of it. But that’s not what I’m writing about today. Today I wanna wish you all a very Happy New Year. I’m not sure how 2011 was for you. Whether you had a good year or a bad year. But as of Monday, it doesn’t matter. Monday things start over. You get a nice little reset button for a new year. 2012, gives you a chance to start over, start a new, and change things for the better.

It’s very possible that 2011 was a great year for you. And if that’s the case, then ignore this post, it doesn’t apply to you. I’m gearing this towards the people who for one reason or another, had a rough year. Look shit happens. Good and bad. One way or another you have to move on past the bad shit and grow. A new year affords you this opportunity. Maybe you just got out of a bad relationship. Maybe you had your heart broken. Maybe you just are not lucky in love. Whatever the case may be, don’t sweat it. For all the ups and downs you had over the last year you get a chance to start fresh in just a few short days.

While the calendar changing it gives you the opportunity to start over. But you have to do something about it. You can’t just say that you are willing to change and be different. You actually have to DO something about it. I love people who join a gym as a new years resolution only to give up a month later. If you’re giving yourself an opportunity for change, embrace it. And actually fucking do something about it. I hate when I say I’m going to do something, and don’t do it. It’s not that I feel like I’m a failure, but more so that I feel like I’ve wasted an opportunity. Grab life by the balls and go for it. The worst thing that could happen is things don’t work out. But, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” (love that quote)

2012 is just around the corner. What kind of year is it going to be for you? Are you going to fall in love? Get a tattoo? Sing karaoke? Tell someone how you feel about them? At the end of the day, the only thing a new year brings for you is a list of opportunities. It’s up to you to decide which of them you’re going to take. You’ll only have yourself to blame if things stay the same for a second year in a row. It’s on you to go ahead and change the way your life is going. So with that, I wish you the best. Happy New Year and I hope for you things start off with a bang. Literally and figuratively haha.

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