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You’re a douchebag,and I am too

On this Valentines Day, I sat alone and came to a pretty basic realization that yes, bitches are crazy but it’s 100% our fault. (men). It’s our fault as men that they act the way they do. It’s our fault as men for their untrusting behavior and skepticism towards dating and love. We fuck with your minds, tell you lies, and expect that you’ll be ok with all of that. No wonder women are out of their minds. We’ve been conditioning them to expect to be degraded, cheated on, and all around fucked with.

You know, I am definitely not boasting or bragging and certainly not proud of the fact that I’ve played my fair share of women. And you know what, I’ve been played myself. That shit sucks. You live and you learn though. And ultimately, the games, the lying, the cheating, the bullshit, that’s what fucks people up long term. You can’t blame someone for being irrational or untrusting when they deal with what some of us have dealt with in our dating lives. But at the end of the day, who’s to blame?

My feeling is insecurity. Insecurity is at the root of every lie, cheat, hit, etc. Someone’s uncomfortability  in their own skin is ultimately at play in these instances. A cheater cheats not because they’re necessarily a horrible person although one would argue they are. A person cheats for that feeling of wanting. For that desirability only gained through a sexual conquest. A lot of times people don’t cheat for any reason other then the opportunity presents itself. It’s a marvelous thing to be wanted. It makes people do things they certainly will regret later.

What it really boils down to though is mens ability to alter a woman’s self worth. A woman’s ego, and her entire ability to trust or love. Break that once, and I’m sure it’s rare to find fixed again. When men lie, cheat, and in the worst cases physically and verbally abuse a woman we are breaking them down to a worthless feeling that I’m not sure I could ever understand. Men who do these acts are pathetic. And sadly, men have ruined women for years and it takes a lot of help to get back to being able to trust and feel worthy of love again. The point I’m trying to make here is that everyone is guilty of misdeeds. Everyone is guilty of fucking up. But to often and to common is a broken woman. This is unacceptable and downright sad. Everyone has the ability to make or break a person. If you’re incapable of loving someone I get it, but don’t break someone because you can.

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by datingsagame on February 21, 2013  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on February 21, 2013

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Unconditional

So, long time no speak. That’s more about my life than yours but I’m hoping to continue to contribute here as frequent as these things pop into my head. So here we go.

Love is supposed to be unconditional right? But how is that remotely possible? I’m not entirely sure about you but when I love, it’s conditional. It’s 100% conditional. And that condition is that I expect to be loved back. Is there anything worse in the world than being the lone person in love while in a relationship? You try so hard, for so long to make things work. You try time and time again to make your feelings be known. Sometimes though, for one reason or another fate intervenes. But I ask again, what makes people think that love was meant to be unconditional?

I don’t buy that. Love is not unconditional, nor should it be. Love should never be a compromise. Love should be shared. Love shouldn’t be a series of mistakes, fights, arguments, or negotiating. Love should be easy. But it seldom if ever is. Fair or not love needs to be a partnership. Love needs to be more than two people caring for one another and more than people trying to make each other happy. I find it frequently true that love is hard. Duh right? It’s difficult. It’s impossible. And it needs to be. Because if love were easy it wouldn’t be worth having. For me, in order for a relationship to work, love has to be and should be conditional.

I find this pretty evident. I mean, who wants to put themselves out there and love unconditionally? To be honest with you, I’ve loved and I’ve lost more so in my life than I would ever like to feel again. For me, it’s not about loss it’s about the regrets of mistakes I made not that of what someone else has done. I own who I am. I own my actions, I own my feelings, and I own my love. I don’t give it freely and expect very little in return when I do. And because of that I expect to have it returned. But unfortunately that’s not always the case.

Please allow me to contradict myself for a moment. Love should be and will always be unconditional. That is to say that you should be able and willing to love someone without expecting anything in return. Selflessly. That’s what makes love incredibly unique as well as difficult to find. The selflessness of being able to open yourself up for the ultimate crush. The ultimate pain. Not being loved. When I say that love is meant to be conditional it is that I don’t want to ever feel the sting of loving unconditionally and not being loved in return.

Things happen in life. Some good, some bad. But one thing you shouldn’t be afraid to do is place a condition on your love. And why shouldn’t you? If your need to provide love is conditioned upon being loved in return, treated fairly, respected, adored, then why shouldn’t you place conditions on your love? Love is the ultimate sacrifice. You provide someone the ammunition to foster a pain inside of you that few experiences can levy. So I say to you, why should love be unconditional?

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by datingsagame on January 25, 2013  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on January 25, 2013

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Cosmic Significance

Nothing happens for  a reason. There is no cosmic significance for why shit in our lives takes place and there sure as fuck is no such thing as soul mates. I’m a fool. I am a wannabe hopeless romantic and a complete fool. You know what happens when you give someone your heart? They crush you. I will never give someone that power over me again. Never. Where do you go form the bottom? How do you crawl back up?

You may find yourself depressed, in a bad mood, feeling like shit. And you know what we’ve all been there. Someone once asked me why is it that sometimes when you’re sleeping with someone it’s never more than that? That when you see a romantic comedy things always find a way of falling into place for them, but rarely in real life? I couldn’t really answer that, I am by all accounts, and quite clearly not God.

I’ve had a lot of sex in my life. Some meaningful, and most not. But why is it that seemingly every time I find someone I care about or begin to develop feelings for someone it always blows up? Why is it that each and every time I allow myself to wonder what it would be like to be in a meaningful healthy relationship with someone it falls apart? Idk maybe it’s just me. Perhaps I just give off the aura of a guy just looking to have fun. Who knows. For some reason when I finally found someone that I really couldn’t imagine my life without, here I am completely alone. Again. Maybe it’s just meant to be.

It’s not supposed to be like this anymore. You’re supposed to fall in love. You’re supposed to find the person you’re going to be with. And yet here I am floundering about not having an utter clue. I won’t pretend it’s just me. I’m not that stupid nor that vain. I just thought that eventually, especially now, that if I felt a spark I so seldom feel with someone that would be the cue for this to be something fucking spectacular. And yet, here I am, back at the start. No closer to the finish line and wondering what’s it all about again. Dating’s hard. It is a game. A lot of times you trick yourself into thinking that if you’re just fucking someone that it’s fine it’s what you want. But deep down, you know you want more. So I am not going to do that anymore. No more lying for me about what I want. No more fucking bullshit anymore. There comes a time when I think we are all fed up with the games, the bullshit, and the nonsense and you just say enough. It’s time to get to a place where I’m truly happy. Or you’re truly happy.

I’m not sure what has changed in me. Maybe I’m just a sucker. A fool. Maybe the belief that everything happens in the first place is just stupid. Who knows? At the end of the day it’s a nice thing to believe that your life falls into place and everything makes sense sometime. I think for me, whether I care to admit it or not, I’ll always believe in fate, in soul mates, in love. Because really who doesn’t want to believe in those things? Who doesn’t want to hope against hope that something magical can happen to us? Go big or go home. Love big or not at all. Put yourself out there in the hopes that the worst thing you can get is a broken heart. I’ll tell you I’ve felt more alive these past two weeks then I have in a long, long time.

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by datingsagame on August 27, 2012  •  Permalink
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Letters To Friends

I know that I repeat myself way too much but honestly, somethings are worth reiterating.

In simple, brutal honesty, nothing in life is easy. Things don’t fall out of the sky and into our laps. We don’t wish upon a star and win the lottery. These things don’t happen. So what is there to do about it? Whine? Complain? Cry? Yea, I’m sure at times life is so fucked up and shitty you just want to give up. But that’s not the answer. When the going gets tough, the tough get going. What a cheesy cliche thing to say but I mean it. There is very little if any that you have the ability to control in life. So why if you can’t are you going to try? You’re just going to end up frustrated, tired, and extremely sad.

Things happen to people in life. Good things happen to bad people, and bad things happen to good people. You have no control over this. Life is like a very well rehearsed song or movie. It has its beginning, the middle, and the end. Trust me, if you’re reading this you’re likely not even to the middle part yet. But seriously, at your age, at this stage in your life, things are not meant to make sense. Things are not meant to be going perfectly. Life is about mistakes. Life is about heartaches and disappointments. Because, after all the shit gets piled onto your head, at the end of the day there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. At some point you come out the other side better than you were before.

Look, in life, people will come into your life and people will come out of your life. There is seriously absolutely not a fucking thing you can do about this. Just know in your gut that the people who are meant to stay there, will. The ones that are meant to leave, will. And just let the chips fall where they may. Everything in life does happen for a reason. You just have to believe that. There is no shortcuts there are no easy answers so stop looking for them. You will eventually find the person you’re meant to be with, you’ll eventually be happy in your work and find your passion. It just might not be today.

Life is, and will always be incredibly difficult. Ultimately what it comes down to is how you are able to cope with the everyday drama, bullshit, heartaches, and multitudes of ups and downs throughout your life. Nothing will come easy to you I promise you that, and if it does congratulations someone upstairs must like you. For the rest of us schmucks we’re gonna have to slug it out, day in day out, week in week out, year in year out. I promise one day things will make sense. That one day everything will fall into place. I just can’t tell you when that will be. We all have those epiphanies here and there and this maybe one of mine. I’m very good at dishing out advice but seldom adhere to it. So for me, I’m going to start listening to more of what I preach. For you, I hope you take what is good in your life and hold onto it and throw the bad shit out. Life is hard enough as it is without useless people to clutter up your days.

I will be honest and tell you that I’ve made a fair share of bad decisions and own a plethora of regrets. But I truly try to forget the past. It’s there for a reason it’s behind you. It isn’t going to change. Something that happened a year ago will NEVER change. You can’t alter your past only shape your future. The choices you make today will definitely impact your tomorrow but once today is gone that’s it, it’s history. You can not, and can’t look back. Keep an eye on the horizon and look FORWARD. You don’t want to say I wish I did this, or I wish I did that. You want to say, I’m going to do this or I’m going to do that. Plan to do something amazing and do it. Life is short and when you have the chance live it up and be positive and look forward. Take your past and allow it to shape who you are today and make that the best person you can possibly be.

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by datingsagame on August 5, 2012  •  Permalink
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Unexpectedly, Expected

I just realized that I have no relationships what so ever with any girl I’ve ever seriously, or casually dated. What do you think that says about me? Once in a while you’ll meet a girl that has you second guessing everything about yourself when you meet her. She changes it all. But it seems like whenever you meet those game changers things never last too long. Fate has a funny way of bringing people together and yet almost simultaneously pulling them apart. Who you are as a person, is it something that’s predetermined when you’re born, or rather who you become over time? Who you become, and what you do with your life, is this something you can control? Or rather something that fate has just cruelly twisted together to make you continually second guessing yourself each step of the way?

Sometimes I find myself unable to imagine myself not being alone. That’s not to say that it’s what I want or would ever remotely want. But it’s something that can keep a guy up at night. You want to be the guy who gets the girl. The guy who meets a girl, falls madly in love and everything just clicks into place. Unfortunately that’s rare. I want to be the guy that gets the girl. Who wouldn’t? Sometimes you think you’ve found her and you have her and it just ends up that you’re only going to for a short while. Honestly, whatever happened to being HONEST. To telling someone exactly, how you feel, being completely up front and real. What happened to that? Why is it so much about playing games and all the incessant nonsense bullshit that goes along with it?

In life, fate only takes you so far, the rest my dear friends, is up to you. A lot of things in life boil down to chemistry and timing. It’s an easy cop out to say that everything happens for a reason even when I actually truly believe that. But in all honesty, it’s a scape goat. We say that to make ourselves feel better the day after we get dumped. Or after someone we know dies in a car accident. The simple fact of the matter is that life is messy, and not all people get a happy ending. Sometimes you can have your cake, you just don’t get to eat it. Sometimes fate plays tricks on you and gives you a glimmer of hope only to yank it away seconds later. I believe it’s possible in an instant to know you can’t spend your life without someone. But why so often are those same feelings not necessarily reciprocated?

Truthfully, dating is hard. Love is hard. Life IS hard. It’s hard on it’s own, you don’t need to be adding to it by trying to force things that aren’t there. When something is truly meant to be….It. Will. Be. Round pegs, don’t fit in square holes no matter how hard we force them in. A lot of times for me, it’s not whether I’ll meet the right girl or not, but rather if it’ll be the right time for both of us. Timing is everything in life. Seconds turn into minutes, that turn into hours, that turn into days. But when you really take a look at it, a minute here and there could be life altering for one person or any person for that matter.

So what am I trying to say here? Tough for me to decipher amongst these incessant ramblings. But I guess life is really tough. You get a lot of ups and you get a lot of downs. But when it comes down to it, trust yourself. Trust who you are as a person and what you want out of your life. If you get butterflies the first time you meet a guy then ask him out. If you kiss a girl and you feel a spark make sure you don’t let her get away. If you get the opportunity to kiss a beautiful girl, go for it. Life is short, you really don’t know how many chances you are going to have to make memories.

What I really think life is about is love. Love for your family. Love for your friends. And love for the people around you. It’s about finding love and keeping it. That doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to be lucky in love, but when you find something that feels right hold on to it. I will readily admit to letting good things in life pass me by. I will readily admit to being afraid to speak up and afraid to go for what I want. Those amount to some massive regrets in my life. But I’ve gotten so much better at that now. I’m no longer afraid to voice my feelings or opinions on what I want and what matters to me. And neither should you.

Life is what you make of it. Love is what you make of it. If you meet someone you can’t be with out, tell them that. It may hurt to be rejected but it will hurt a lot more to second guess yourself for 40-50 years. Carpe diem. Seize the day. Go for what you want for fucks sake! Nobody is going to give you anything in life. You have to earn it. If that means getting rejected fine, so what? If that means getting hurt, hey nobody said this was going to be easy. But at the end of the day, you want to be able to say I fucking went for it each and every day of my life and I am proud on how I lived.

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by datingsagame on February 21, 2012  •  Permalink
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Valentines Day

(Disclaimer: I hate valentines day.)

Not like this should be any sort of surprise to any of you but truthfully, this is not an actual holiday. This is quite possibly the quintessential example of capitalism at its finest. This is a Hallmark holiday. A chocolate companies dream. Restaurants love February for this day alone. The simple fact of the matter is that this holiday was established to have an economic impact on an otherwise drab month. I may be a cynic, but seriously people if you need a day in February to tell your significant other you love them, you’re already fucked.

Truthfully guys, and yes I’m pointing this out to strictly the men, you’ll be ruined if you don’t do something for your girl on Valentines day. I don’t recommend that. But, you’d also do yourself a huge favor by doing things on days other then Valentines day. I’m a big proponent on getting flowers, chocolates, gifts, etc. at all random times. You will earn a LOT more points doing that versus doing the generic V-Day bullshit. You will do yourself a big favor, by being creative on other days. Girls love spontaneous gifts, and doing something just for the sake of you loving her. Trust me on this one guys, write that down.

Look, I hate this day. I have always hated this day, I will always hate this day. That’s not going to change. Whether I’m single, married, divorced whatever, I will hate this day. It just sucks. For single people it’s a wonderful reminder that you’re single and alone. For someone in a relationship, it’s a forced spending day on things that you can be doing for your significant other anyway. Ultimately, the day is a sham. It’s a burden on people one way or another, single or happily married.

Ultimately guys, today’s not about you. It’s about her. It’s your chance to prove you love her, even though I truly hope you do this on more than today. I’m a big fan of big extravagant gestures even if it’s on Valentines Day. But go nuts. Tell her you love her in the ways you know how. If you’re ordinarily a loser, go big, it can’t hurt. I also recommend doing something down the road a month from now to earn some additional brownie points. It will work. Trust me. Today may be about a fake holiday, but it doesn’t mean you can’t tell her you love her.

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by datingsagame on February 14, 2012  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on February 14, 2012

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Making a List

The winter time and Christmas being around the corner has got me in the spirit. So I started thinking about this friend of mine who made a pretty exact lists of some of her do’s and don’ts. Well I am not sure I necessarily Agree

Someone has to explain to me what it is about women that makes them have like this mental check list of what they look for in a guy. Mental, or an actual hand written note, either or. But regardless, I can’t figure out what the purpose of this is. How often in life does something go as planned? Or more so according to something you’ve actually written down? Life is an ever changing landscape, and you are its biggest moving piece. If you actually do have a list of things you’re looking for, be prepared to change it constnatly.

Ultimately, there is no chance you are going to find a person based on some preconceived ideal man or woman you have drawn up in your mind. Unless you’re the girl who will one day capture my heart…(pause for laughter, or applause depending who you are) Anyway, give yourself the chance of meeting the right person. Don’t pigeon toe yourself into a box. You will eventually meet the person you’re supposed to be. And it won’t be any sooner or later than it’s supposed to be. No list, whether personality wise or physically will ever match up to the person you end up meeting. Because at the end of the day, the person you end up with will be so much more than what you’ve written on that piece of paper.

Listen ladies, I can’t fault you for wanting to at least get down on paper the things you look for in a dude. And to be honest, it makes sense. You’re all neurotic enough to think that making a list will actually help. But it won’t. Only thing it will do is occupy your mind while you dream about the person you’re supposed to be with. Ultimately, fate will win out and you’ll end up meeting that person exactly when you’re supposed to be. Don’t think something you have in your head will have to be what you need to end up with. You could end up excluding yourself from something great. And ladies, please…if you find a guy that’s near perfect, do NOT try to change him into being that exact match. You’re only going to lose him.

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by datingsagame on December 13, 2011  •  Permalink
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Requests

For now she will remain nameless but she has certainly been scribed about in this blog. A person whose opinion I greatly enjoy and appreciate recently gave me a list of 30 things (29.5) that she needs in a man. Take a look and enjoy!

 

1. Do not ask to kiss me (for the first time.) Thats just awkward and kills all desire for it to happen. Great things happens naturally not awkwardly in a parking lot after dinner

2. Please pay. No I’m not a gold digger but remember you are trying to woo me.  And when I offer to pay please don’t hesitate like you would at a crosswalk on a busy street.

3. Save the sarcasm for the third date. It’s fun to shoot the shit but not before I know if your joking or not. I may end up thinking “is this guy for real?”

4. Don’t say you’re trying to quit smoking. Because you probably arn’t really trying all that hard if you’re talking about it and I see a pack of cigarettes on your kitchen counter.

5. Don’t tell me that you get excited when your mom does your laundry. Keep that a secret for at least 6 months into the relationship.

6. Don’t pretend to be straight when you are actually gay. You are old enough to come out and society won’t care.

7. Don’t dress better than me. Better yet don’t think you dress awesome because you get your clothing from Express. Keep that a secret for awhile.

8. Offer some sort of drink when I come visit. I don’t care if it’s water. At least offer something!  That’s common courtesy.

9. Call when u say you’ll call. Or don’t bother saying you will. This is the foundation of any relationship. And honey, no house is gonna get built without some cement down there.

10. Don’t cancel plans last minute. Yes, emergencies happen. Sitting on the couch drinking beer with a buddy is not an emergency enough to cancel. So sorry I just ruined MNF.

11. Respect your mother. Do not refer to her as a bitch or any other term no matter how mad you are at her-err scratch that, I don’t need to know you are mad at her until wayyy later in the relationship

12. Speak highly but vaguely about your ex. Do not bash her or call her crazy. You probably made her act that way at some point. Its not our fault 90% of the time. Relax, you still get that 10%.

13. Exercise. Do you need a six pack? No. Do you need to enjoy taking your ass off the couch? Yes. Breaking a sweat in the dead of winter is ok and skiing is pretty damn fun too so you should try it

14. Personal hygiene. Enough said.

15. Laugh. Laugh at my stupid jokes and laugh at yourself. Tell me the dirty office joke, I won’t be offended. I may come back with a dirtier one

16. Don’t live with your parents (duh) you have a job and can support yourself….you do have a job? Right?

17. Please don’t cut your own hair. I don’t care how good you are at it. That’s cheap and weird to admit to a woman. Go to a damn barber if you need to save the extra money

18. Drink wine. It makes you feel oh so good. It’s hard to blackout on 3 glasses of wine but 3 or 4 is all it takes to have a pretty great night

19. Leave your baggage at the door. Yes men have baggage or as they probably call it, “shit that bothers me but I don’t want to talk about”. Well figure it out or forget it. If your best friend died in an unfortunate accident 5 years ago I’m sorry. But don’t let that make you incapable of feeling any emotion ever again.

20. Just go to Vegas and get it over with already. Get that zipper unzipped as much as your little heart desires while you’re there. THEN date me.

21.  Stop pretending to make plans with me a month in advance. If we’ve only known each other for a month then it’s a strong possibility you either won’t remember those so-called plans or we will no longer be speaking. Plus it freaks me out.

22. Cry after watching Marley and Me.  Then I know you might just have a soul.

23. When you are lucky enough to finally hook up with me, remember that I have boobs. They are there and it is ok that you are interested in them. I question your manhood I you don’t bother with them. It doesn’t matter if you are a self proclaimed “ass guy”.

24. Compliments. Too many is wierd and none at all and I feel like crap for spending so much time to look nice for you. The art of balance. Figure it out. Ask your mother.

25. Calling me ‘babe’ or ‘baby’ within the first week of dating will make you seem like a 21 year old. It will not get you laid either.

26. A positive attitude goes a long way. We all have shitty days. But when every day is a “shitty day” according to you and all those people you work for are “assholes” it only brings me down. I deal with 6 year olds, you’re going to whine to me too?

27. Keep the road rage to a minimum. I know this is asking alot of a man, but I can’t help but slightly fear for my life while I am helpless in the passenger seat and you feel the need to seek revenge by riding the guys ass in front of us and laying on the horn. I am embarrassed as well.  Probably also ducking down at this point

28. Don’t late-night call. I will not come over to “hang”. If we’ve been dating for a year that’s different, but don’t you dare try that in the first 1-6 months. Been there, done that. You really want to see me? Come here. Oh But you’re really comfortable on your own couch? Next!

29. Do not share how drunk you were last week or the time you got arrested or the time when you got really lucky that the cop didn’t give you that DUI. Those stories make me want to cringe and run away…fast.

30. I feel like there should be a #30……hmm….idk..clip your toenails but please for the love of god….don’t paint them.

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by datingsagame on November 8, 2011  •  Permalink
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“Going The Distance”

So I recently got an opportunity to see the movie Going The Distance, staring Drew Barrymore and that guy from the Apple commercials. As you’ll recall in one of my previous posts, I’m pretty adamant against long distance relationships. But I’ve got to admit, this film has me reconsidering just a bit. I’m not gonna use this post as a synapsysis of the film. More to discuss the topic of long distance and how this Rom/Com has totally flipped my views on the subject.

So orignially my feelings were pretty blunt. Long distance doesn’t work. At the end of it, eventually someone cheats, or someone drifts away. It’s just a very stressful, difficult situation to get through. Every forray I have into long distance has ended badly. I’ve only heard of like 2 out of 200 long distance relationships actually working out. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but it’s improbable. Shit is just difficult. Who wants to hurt someone they love? Who wants to take all that time and ruin something because they’re horny one night? After a while you just get the feeling that long distance just won’t work.

But now, after seeing this one of the most uber cheesiest Rom/Com’s I must say I’m beginning to change my tune. Listen, I’ve had bad experiences and heard of plenty of other bad experiences so of course I’m not the biggest fan of long distance. But this movie has kinda flipped it. If even just a little bit. It kinda showed, and mostly due to great chemistry between Barrymore and Justin Long that if you really love someone it’s possible to make it work. At the end of the day, if you’re in it for the long haul and you can’t imagine being with the person for the rest of your life. Fuck it, go for it.

I do think long distance is the ultimate test for a relationship. I don’t think you should do it while in college and if you do it post college, I really hope you think that you’re marrying that other person. I’ve seen and met to many gorgeous girls who have a long distance boyfriend and they end up cheating on her. Make sure you’re doing this for the right reason, that you can’t live your life without this person. Because when it’s all said and done, I hope that you’re spending the rest of your life with them. That’s how hard it is. You have to fight for what you want. And in the end, everything will shake out the way it’s supposed to.

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by datingsagame on October 14, 2011  •  Permalink
Posted in Cheating, Chemistry, Dating, Emotions, Everything Happens For A Reason, Fate, Love, monogamy, Relationships, Uncategorized

Posted by datingsagame on October 14, 2011

http://datingsagame.com/2011/10/14/going-the-distance/

Going For What You Want

Why is it that so many people our age are such in a hurry to settle? What is it about being young, successful, charismatic, and yet be able to afford the innate ability to just be content? I’m really not sure, this is something that’s very troubling for me…What do you do to get the girl/guy you really want but can’t have? Would you get on a plane? Climb a mountain? Walk a mile? How far are you willing to go? If she says now 100 times, do you ask 101?  What is your point that you’re willing to go for what you want? For me, it’s always been about today. There’s no tomorrow. There’s no guarantee. Why sit out on the sidelines when you can be in the game playing? Life is short folks, better to look like an idiot tonight or tomorrow and enjoy it then sitting at home watching television.

In a world filled with texting, tweeting, Facebooking, the Match.com’s and Eharmony’s the dating world is tough. It’s so easy to be turned down now on a million different verticals. How far are you willing to go to get a girl you want? Will you hold nothing back? I mean, I’m not asking if you’re going to stalk this girl into submission, but are you willing to go for what you want? If he or she won’t give you the time of day are you willing to keep getting rejected? At the end of the day, how far are you willing to go to get what you want?

Look, ultimately, my life philosophy is that life is incredibly short. Very rarely do you get everything you want and very rarely do things always work out. But, I feel that should you be given the opportunity to do something special, to go out and have a good time, I do it. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, and because of that, I believe in taking every advantage of what life brings my way. I date a lot, I meet a lot of women, I get turned down a lot. At the end of the day, you can’t fear rejection. You just have to have confidence in what you want and go get it. If you want someone, go for it. The worst thing that happens is they don’t reciprocate your feelings and then it’s time to move on.

Sometimes you can’t get what you want. But occasionally, an incredible amount of persistence can pay off. Keep going after what you want. Be creative. Nobody is going to date a guy who is a cookie cutter image of someone else. Nobody wants what is already out there. Be unique. Stand out from the crowd and dare to be different. BE YOURSELF. Ultimately in the end, things shake out the way they’re supposed to. Don’t over think it too much and don’t get depressed. Everything happens for a reason and in the end, you’ll be fine.

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by datingsagame on September 22, 2011  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on September 22, 2011

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