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Thankful

There’s always that lengthy duration of sadness, regret, and fear when a relationship ends. You look back at the time spent and wonder what you could have done differently. Was there anything more you could do? Was she the one? Was your inability to adapt the driving wedge? You take an extra hard look at what has transpired over the course of the relationship and ultimately you’re just left with more questions than answers. At the end of the day for me, I’m left with sadness because I just lost someone I obviously cared deeply about but more so I’m left with an overwhelming feeling of thankfulness.

I know that thankfulness would be an odd feeling to have once a relationship is over. Especially depending upon how badly things ended. But for me, at least this time around, I’m thankful. Why you might ask? This girl, amongst all the many women in my life fundamentally changed who I am and how I act. Truthfully I waited my whole life to meet her. I waited this long to absolutely head over heels fall in love with someone and I’m glad that I had it and I’m even more glad of who I had it with. It’s a special thing love. It really is. It’s not something that you can force and it’s not something you can plan but sometimes you just end up stumbling into something great even if it doesn’t work out.

For me, I’m going to really take a moment and look back at the awesome times we had. The first kiss, the first dinner, date, everything. I’m going to look back at all of that with such fond memories that even if I’m not in the greatest of places today, tomorrow I know I’m going to be glad I shared them. You don’t plan on breaking up with someone when you get together. You don’t plan on things not working out and perhaps that’s why it’s so hard to let someone go. All you do is see the good times the great moments you shared. That’s why breaking up is hard to do. But as a relationship wears on I think you realize more and more whether this is a person you can spend the rest of your life with or not. And for me, I’m not entirely sure I got the opportunity to answer that question but the seperation will inevitably be the thing that makes me realize for better or for worse, what we had was special.

I don’t pretend to have the answers. In actuality I probably have none. I only own my life experiences and ups and downs and the feelings that are associated with them. For the time being I’m going to appreciate that I’m sad. I’m going to accept that I’m upset because you know what? All that really means is that what we shared was real. That what we had meant something. I’d rather feel like shit any day of the week to know that the time I spent with someone wasn’t for nothing. As funny as it sounds, I’m thankful for this broken heart, I’m thankful for this feeling of shit because I know deep down that she’s changed me. And I’m better off for it.

For a while there I thought it’d be unlikely I fall in love. For a while I honestly felt as if I was going to be a single bachelor my whole life and you know the truth of the matter is I didn’t necessarily mind that. I was worried that I lacked the fundamental capabilities to love someone. And now I know that’s not the case. Now I know that I can fight for love and I can appreciate love and I can care for someone deeper than I ever imagined possible. That I would be willing to put someone else first. That I’d for once in my life stop being the selfish prick that I am and truly and genuinely with all my heart love someone. That’s a powerful gift I was given and something I will never take for granted again.

Unfortunately, not everything in life works out. And unfortunately not everyone is meant to be with you forever. And that’s ok. Things happen for a reason in life and at the conclusion of each day you have to just smile and be thankful for the days you’ve lived and the days to come. I don’t believe in mistakes. I don’t believe in regrets and for me I’m happy as hell that I met this person. I’m incredibly blessed to have shared the time I have with her because I’m a better person for having met her. So I took my licks, and I took my bruises but now I can smile and look back fondly on the time we spent together. I can live without a regret and know that the pain I’m feeling now is because of the love we shared.

Breakups suck. Losing someone from your life is difficult and it’s absolutely never going to get easier. Take your time to feel bad and take your time to feel sorry but don’t find yourself lost in a funk. Allow yourself the time you think you need to grieve and then it’s time to stand up again. Life is too short to be anything but happy everyday. Life is about falling down and willing yourself to get back up and the fight off the ground is what makes life special. It’s not about the amount of times we get knocked down but the amount of times we get back up. Life is an incredibly precarious, gentle, fragile thing and you should never take it for granted. Be thankful for the time you have with someone in your life because tomorrow there are no guarantees.

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by datingsagame on February 3, 2013  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on February 3, 2013

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Unexpectedly, Expected

I just realized that I have no relationships what so ever with any girl I’ve ever seriously, or casually dated. What do you think that says about me? Once in a while you’ll meet a girl that has you second guessing everything about yourself when you meet her. She changes it all. But it seems like whenever you meet those game changers things never last too long. Fate has a funny way of bringing people together and yet almost simultaneously pulling them apart. Who you are as a person, is it something that’s predetermined when you’re born, or rather who you become over time? Who you become, and what you do with your life, is this something you can control? Or rather something that fate has just cruelly twisted together to make you continually second guessing yourself each step of the way?

Sometimes I find myself unable to imagine myself not being alone. That’s not to say that it’s what I want or would ever remotely want. But it’s something that can keep a guy up at night. You want to be the guy who gets the girl. The guy who meets a girl, falls madly in love and everything just clicks into place. Unfortunately that’s rare. I want to be the guy that gets the girl. Who wouldn’t? Sometimes you think you’ve found her and you have her and it just ends up that you’re only going to for a short while. Honestly, whatever happened to being HONEST. To telling someone exactly, how you feel, being completely up front and real. What happened to that? Why is it so much about playing games and all the incessant nonsense bullshit that goes along with it?

In life, fate only takes you so far, the rest my dear friends, is up to you. A lot of things in life boil down to chemistry and timing. It’s an easy cop out to say that everything happens for a reason even when I actually truly believe that. But in all honesty, it’s a scape goat. We say that to make ourselves feel better the day after we get dumped. Or after someone we know dies in a car accident. The simple fact of the matter is that life is messy, and not all people get a happy ending. Sometimes you can have your cake, you just don’t get to eat it. Sometimes fate plays tricks on you and gives you a glimmer of hope only to yank it away seconds later. I believe it’s possible in an instant to know you can’t spend your life without someone. But why so often are those same feelings not necessarily reciprocated?

Truthfully, dating is hard. Love is hard. Life IS hard. It’s hard on it’s own, you don’t need to be adding to it by trying to force things that aren’t there. When something is truly meant to be….It. Will. Be. Round pegs, don’t fit in square holes no matter how hard we force them in. A lot of times for me, it’s not whether I’ll meet the right girl or not, but rather if it’ll be the right time for both of us. Timing is everything in life. Seconds turn into minutes, that turn into hours, that turn into days. But when you really take a look at it, a minute here and there could be life altering for one person or any person for that matter.

So what am I trying to say here? Tough for me to decipher amongst these incessant ramblings. But I guess life is really tough. You get a lot of ups and you get a lot of downs. But when it comes down to it, trust yourself. Trust who you are as a person and what you want out of your life. If you get butterflies the first time you meet a guy then ask him out. If you kiss a girl and you feel a spark make sure you don’t let her get away. If you get the opportunity to kiss a beautiful girl, go for it. Life is short, you really don’t know how many chances you are going to have to make memories.

What I really think life is about is love. Love for your family. Love for your friends. And love for the people around you. It’s about finding love and keeping it. That doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to be lucky in love, but when you find something that feels right hold on to it. I will readily admit to letting good things in life pass me by. I will readily admit to being afraid to speak up and afraid to go for what I want. Those amount to some massive regrets in my life. But I’ve gotten so much better at that now. I’m no longer afraid to voice my feelings or opinions on what I want and what matters to me. And neither should you.

Life is what you make of it. Love is what you make of it. If you meet someone you can’t be with out, tell them that. It may hurt to be rejected but it will hurt a lot more to second guess yourself for 40-50 years. Carpe diem. Seize the day. Go for what you want for fucks sake! Nobody is going to give you anything in life. You have to earn it. If that means getting rejected fine, so what? If that means getting hurt, hey nobody said this was going to be easy. But at the end of the day, you want to be able to say I fucking went for it each and every day of my life and I am proud on how I lived.

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by datingsagame on February 21, 2012  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on February 21, 2012

http://datingsagame.com/2012/02/21/unexpectedly-expected/

Oral Sex: Men Please and Women _____________

I’m not going to say women tease because there is a significant portion of women out there who undoubtedly love giving head. I will however say, men are willing to go down anytime, anywhere. Without hesitation it is my feeling that men are looking to please and make their women feel good. I’m not suggesting that all women are adverse to the oral givings to their men but I am suggesting the following for women.

1. You enjoy giving and not receiving

2. You enjoy just receiving and not giving

3. Then there’s a small minority who doesn’t like giving or receiving

It amazes me how often it’s really only these three options with women. It’s like for one reason or another they love giving and they want to make their men feel good. But it does make a bit of an interesting aspect to look at. Why is it that some women are so against receiving?  Is it a comfort level? Is it an inability to allow yourself to let go? Is it insecurity? It might be all of those things, it might be none of those things. Oral sex is absolutely a very intimate act and I understand women’s hesitation on both parts, but it is a very important aspect to maintaining a healthy sex life.

So for a recap, why are women afraid to go down? Or afraid to accept the going down? Is it a straight line of insecurity? Is it a fear of how it will taste? Or if he will judge her down there? I mean it’s all of those things. Both men and women need to be more open to exploring the finer arts of oral conalingus. The simple fact of the matter is that neither men or women are 100% comfortable with their own bodies but when you’re with someone you should be comfortable enough with them to let yourself go. Allow your inhibitions and insecurities to leave. Go have some fun. :-) ~

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by datingsagame on May 19, 2011  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on May 19, 2011

http://datingsagame.com/2011/05/19/oral-sex-men-please-and-women-_____________/

Mistakes:

While I may pretend like I am perfect, the unfortunate and sad truth is that is clearly not the case. I’d love to pretend like I am an amazing hopeless romantic, and that I always treat girls like gold, but that would be a lie. I’m a guy, and unfortunately I’ve had my fair shake of mistakes and things I wish I could take back. As I hit this milestone of my 100th post, I decided to take a look at all of my past experiences and evaluate how I’ve grown just in the last couple of years.

I’m not even gonna bother discussing my early dating life because to summarize quite generally, I was a prick. An asshole, and completely void of any type of ability to make a decision. Too many times I’d find myself “with” a girl on the weekends, only to tell her throughout the week that I didn’t want to be with her. These early years were I think one of the main reasons why I’ve stayed single as long as I have. It was a time where I was unable to decide what exactly it was I was looking for. And because of that, too many times I ended up fucking over a nice girl who I strung along for no reason other then my own need to feel wanted.

I’ll say I graduated from step one of dating to step two. Step two was a good time for me because I started spending a lot of time with an increasingly smaller amount of women. Talk about an oxymoron haha. What I’m trying to say, is that I was doing a better job of increasing the amount of time I was spending with the girls in my life, versus the old fuck and chuck me that used to exist. Step two was a good time because I thought I was growing as a person but in actuality a lot of my own insecurities and faults bubbled back up to the surface and I realized I wasn’t all that different from step one me.

Step three me was probably the worst phase of my dating history. I met a couple girls who for one reason or another broke my heart badly. There was the girl who was engaged to be engaged, that sucked a lot. And then there was the accountant I was dating who turned out to not entirely be over her ex bf. All in all I thought the length of time I spent with these two girls was a stepping stone in the right direction, but the end result was definitely not what I was looking for. Of all three of the steps, step three was by far the most difficult for me to overcome. Truthfully after this stage, I regressed a bit into my old ways, but I luckily think I’ve moved on to stage four.

Stage four is where I’m at right now in my life. I consider myself in the perfect place in my life in all ways possible. Family life has gotten a lot better after the ending of 2010 really dealt a difficult blow with the passing of my grandmother, but thankfully we’ve only gotten closer because of this. Work wise I couldn’t be happier. I’m freelancing a lot of different work, making more money then ever and just all in all enjoying life. My personal life has hit a great stride and I think soon I could see myself wifing up a girl for at least a short while. (girlfriend, not actual wife). So it being a reflective post, and mostly with an optimistic outlook to the future, where do I see things going in the next 6 months?

Good question. Ultimately I see myself with a girlfriend sometime soon. I’m in the right place in my life to want to settle down but I’m not going to force it. That would be devastating. You can’t plan these things and I don’t hope to. I just am in the right spot in my life and could see myself slowing down in the dating game a bit more in 2011. Over the last 100 posts I’ve learned a lot about myself and hopefully you’ve learned a lot about yourself through reading my fucked up dating life. There’s no time like the present. I’m going to be hoping for another 100 and I hope you’re going to be right here with me. Sometime things don’t work out but I have a feeling these next few months should be great for all of us. So good luck, and keep an eye out for post 101.

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by datingsagame on January 20, 2011  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on January 20, 2011

http://datingsagame.com/2011/01/20/chapter-one-hundred/

2011 optimism:

So clearly I’m a little bit behind but Happy New Year. With the new year it’s really gotten me to thinking about what I’m looking for in 2011 and perhaps what some of you might be looking for moving forward to the new year. The nice thing about January is every year people have an opportunity to start over. You get to right all the wrongs you had from the year before and you get an opportunity to change things for the new year. I think that’s very important. Every year people make resolutions to lose weight, or eat healthier or any number of different things. But very seldom do people say they just want to better themselves in whatever way possible for the new year.

I know of very few people who are doing exactly what they want and are exactly where they want to be in their lives right now. Quite honestly I am a 25 year old shadow of the person I thought I would be at this point in my life. And I am in no way saying that as a negative. Shit, growing up we all had hopes and dreams and 25 seemed like such an old age that by now I thought I’d be doing any number of different things. I have absolutely no regrets or sadness about who I am and what I’m becoming. I smile with the thoughts that hopefully someday all this shit will make sense, and I know deep down everything will fall into place.

That’s probably the most important key for a successful and happy new year. You have to remain optimistic. It’s very easy to get down over things that don’t work out. Maybe you date someone and things don’t work out. Maybe you lose your job and have trouble finding something new to do. Who knows what it could be. The important thing is that everything in life happens for a reason, and as long as you believe that no matter what happens, everything will fall into place, you’ll be fine.

So what do I want for myself in 2011? Good fucking question. If I knew I’d tell ya. Mostly I think I’m ready to start settling down. Not necessarily wife myself up, but definitely relax on the randomness of my dating life. I am also hoping that 2011 brings me a clearer picture on what I want to do with my professional life. I’ve been stumbling through the professional world to this point in my life and I’m ready for a bit more clarity when it comes to that. But all in all, I hope for a happy and healthy 2011 for all my friends and family, and for all you readers. I hope that everything you’re looking for in this new year comes true, and hope that you understand that you have infinite possibilities and to just go for it!

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by datingsagame on January 6, 2011  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on January 6, 2011

http://datingsagame.com/2011/01/06/chapter-ninety-five/

Haters, get over it:

This is something new to me. I should rephrase that. I do honestly try my best not to hate on other peoples happiness, but you know how it is. From time to time, you can’t help but try to knock people down a peg or two. But I gotta say, it’s depressing and annoying when you have someone who constantly hates on other couples and other peoples situations.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am very much guilty of looking at a girl and being like what the fuck is she doing with that guy? It’s taken me a little while to realize how totally fucked up that is. I mean honestly who are any of us to judge other people’s happiness? Don’t wonder why she’s with him. Don’t think you’re better. Maybe you are. Maybe you aren’t. Either way where do you get by talking shit and hating? No where.

Everyone has this person in their group of friends. I don’t wanna say they’re a debbie downer but it just seems more often then not they’re saying something negative. It’s always the polar opposite of the opinion you have or someone else in your group has. It seems like they always butt heads and at times it can be pretty frustrating. I look at it this way, if you have a hater in your midst, they’re probably miserable themselves.

I mean think about it, if I am negative all the time obviously it has to be due to some unhappinesses in my life. It’s a matter of figuring out why that person is that way. At the end of the day they’re still your friend. You should maybe take the time to figure out why he/she is concerned with other people so much and see what’s really eating at them. I won’t lie, I’ve been that guy. I see a hot girl with a blah dude and I automatically think I’m better and she should be with me. But at the end of the day, you’re never as cool as you think you are.

That actually brings me onto a rather funny tangent. I heard one university did a study on what percentage of their co-eds thought they were popular. Something like 2 out of 6 people thought they were “cool” or part of the “in crowd”. That’s fucking hysterical. You honestly mean to tell me that 1/3 of the people in this world identify themselves as being “cool”? That’s hysterical. What the fuck is cool anyway? Is it the way you dress? The music you listen to? The car you drive? Give me a fucking break. Cool was something we had to worry about in elementary school. I’m in my 20′s. I’m pretty much over people who use the term cool to identify themselves or their friends. Morons.

But alas, there’s me hating. So you see what I’m saying. Sometimes you just get yourself worked up and in a mood that makes you hate. Maybe it’s time we all practiced a little bit of tolerance and respect these days. I’m sick of negative people talking shit. Get over yourself and get over your opinions. They’re like assholes, everyone has one. So go take a shit and leave me alone.

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by datingsagame on November 15, 2010  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on November 15, 2010

http://datingsagame.com/2010/11/15/chapter-eighty-three/

Food for thought:

What is a man measured by? Is it the clothes on his back? The car in his driveway? The watch on his wrist? The friends that he keeps? If you wear a suit to work everyday does that make you a professional? Does that mean you are professional in what you do? You wonder sometimes what it is about life, what we as a people are constantly searching for each and every day. Is it a job? Is it a person? Is it a religion? A family? A group of friends? What is the meaning of life?

I don’t have the answer. If you think I did you must be crazier than I am and I’m pretty fucking nuts. There’s no right or wrong answer to the reasons why things happen in our life. There’s no reason why if you go down road A your life leads you down path B. At the end of the day every decision we make, every breath we take impacts some other course of our life. It might not be today, it could be tomorrow. You just never know.

There’s a couple things I’ve come across in life that at their core are what everyone is searching for. Family. I don’t mean just your genetic family of brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, etc. I’m talking about the group of people that make up who you are. Your closest friends, relatives, neighbors, whoever and whatever makes you who you are. They are your backbone. They are the ones who will be there for you when you least expect it. Life has a funny way of throwing curveballs to you at times and these are the people who will be there for you when the shit hits the fan.

Love. I’m not talking about a lover, I’m talking about love. Love for the people in your life. Love for the place you hold in theirs. True and unequivocal love. It’s not as easy to find as you would think. It’s difficult. It’s hard. If it were easy, we’d live in some utopian society that I’m sure as shit glad doesn’t exist. Love is for lack of a better word, what we’re all searching for. It keeps you warm at night and holds you tight when you least expect it. If it were something easily attained it wouldn’t be worth the journey.

Life is and always will be a struggle. Sure there are people who laugh their way through life. Step in shit and always seem to be on top of the world. And hey maybe they are. And good for them, I only wish to lead such a life. But as a famous quote once said, “life is not the amount of breaths you take, it’s the moments that take your breath away.” That is in it’s most simplistic form, what life is all about.

It’s not the clothes you wear, or the car you drive. It’s not how big your TV is or how many girls you’ve fucked. It’s the small things that make up an otherwise short existence. It’s the moments you think back on when it’s 3am and you can’t sleep. It’s the pictures on your fire place and the stories told in front of it. Life is and always will be a journey. And it’s about the ride. It’s about the ups and downs that make up the wonderful roller coaster of life. If it were easy, you wouldn’t appreciate the bullshit, tears, and heartaches it takes to gain true happiness.

I might not have all the answers and I will never pretend to. I’ve made my fair of mistakes and will continue to do so. One day it’ll all make sense. I’ve always said an awkward morning beats a boring night but the truth is, no night is boring. Take a moment to appreciate the little things. The things you wouldn’t appreciate until they’re gone. Take a moment to take it all in. Life’s short. But I guarantee you one thing, at the end of my time here, I’m going out with a big smile on my face. Ear to fucking ear. Cheers.

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by datingsagame on October 27, 2010  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on October 27, 2010

http://datingsagame.com/2010/10/27/chapter-seventy-seven/

Everything in life happens for a reason:

I know this for a fact. I can tell you this undeniably there is a reason why we hurt, why we go through trials and tribulations, why everything sometimes goes to shit. In the end it’s all part of the plan. It might be difficult for you to realize at the time but every problem you encounter in your life is meant to make you stronger.

I feel like your employment status should be like a relationship status. I’m in a relationship, I’m single, I’m married too. Or as I think I was, I’m in an open relationship meaning I have a job, but it sucks, so if you’re hotter (better job) let’s hookup. Well there’s one problem with this relationship status. If it’s open to the public and everyone can see it, you leave yourself open to being dumped by your current girlfriend. Well that’s what happened to me. I got the old heave ho. Not worth dwelling on, not worth discussing, but it happened and I couldn’t be happier.

It’s a funny thing life is sometimes. I totally never expected to get fired in my life. Because, well, I’m awesome. Everyone at my office loved me, and even though I woke up every morning dreading going to work it was work so I figured that’s what it had to be like. In the week that I’ve been unemployed I couldn’t be happier. I wake up every morning with a big smile on my face. I read a couple books, I write some posts, I cook some lunch, I go to the gym. And it’s great. I’m going to take this time, to really sit down and decide what it is I want to do with my life. What I want to be and who I want to be.

You get very few opportunities in life to be truly happy. And if you get one, take it and run with it. If that means quitting your job and doing something else, do it. If that means ending a relationship and finding someone else, do it. Life’s tough, and unfortunately it’s all about number one. My happiness is precedent over anything else. Because if I’m not happy and my life isn’t going the way I want it to be, I drag others down around me and I would rather be an inspiration than a depression. I want to bring people up and make them understand that you can do whatever you want in life and that starts today. Decide what you want and take it. Go for what you want and have no regrets. I know I don’t. And I keep waking up with a smile on my face.

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by datingsagame on October 21, 2010  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on October 21, 2010

http://datingsagame.com/2010/10/21/chapter-seventy-five/

Interesting Conversation:

At a bar the other night I started talking to this extremely hot chick who was a friend of a friend. Wasn’t really trying to put the moves on her or anything but was interested in speaking to her none the less. We were talking and she kept giggling and smiling over at a bartender halfway down the bar. I asked her if she knew the guy. She went into some tangent on how they hooked up once nothing serious but she knew he was a player so she totally blew him off. She went on to say probably one of the most shocking things, at least to me, about “hot men”.

She told me, and I quote, “I will never date a guy that hot. He knows he’s hot, and will end up fucking me over in the end. I’d rather be with an average guy who is thankful to have me than a guy who looks like that.” I felt like Harry Potter just threw the stupefy curse on me. I stood there for a second literally speechless. It took me a while to process this information but honestly, it totally makes sense. In my dating history I’ve probably done the same shit.

Think about it. You settle for security, and safety, and the thought that the person you have is going to stay with you and not hurt you. It totally makes sense. I’ve done this before. I’ve dated a girl who I didn’t think was as hot as I would normally go for because I figured she would be safe. She wouldn’t hurt me and I would dictate the relationship. I can understand why people do this but I have to say in hindsight this is a terrible practice. Yea it makes sense, you secure yourself from what you think will be a hurt if you go for someone out of your league but at the same time, shouldn’t you reach for the top of the top? Shouldn’t you go out of your way to get that girl that you have no business having? Like, I get it, you settle to secure yourself from being hurt but it’s a faulty practice, in the end you’re shorting yourself of something particularly spectacular.

Look I already admitted to practicing this move in the past. But I am not going to in the future. Here’s why. At the end of the day I want to be happy. I want to know I did everything I could in every second of every day. I didn’t just sit around and let the world wash over me and drown me. I want to fight and go out swinging. And that means going after a girl you have no business getting. That means doing grand loving gestures to get that girl and keep her as yours. Because if you end up settling, you’ll just hate yourself in the end.

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by datingsagame on October 21, 2010  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on October 21, 2010

http://datingsagame.com/2010/10/21/chapter-seventy-four/

No this chapter will not be about my least favorite sex act ever created:

But it will be about sex. First I’ll say this. 69Ing is weird. Too many body parts, too many feelings. Idk whether to think about what I’m getting or concentrate on what I’m giving. I feel like it’s like when a girl gets her period for the first time. Shit’s happening you don’t know what to do, and all you want to do is find your mommy. So let’s get down too it. No fucking around. Skip that damn 69ing bullshit and let’s have some fun. I’ve been doing a lot of chatting with some of you readers about your feelings on sex, love, all that jazz. So I wanted to write a little post touching on some things that I think all of you are thinking but not all of you are articulating.

Here’s something I want you all to understand and acknowledge. When it comes to sex, whether you’re in a relationship or not, make sure the person your banging feels special when you leave. Even if it’s a one night stand, or you’ve been dating for 10 years. At the end of your fun, hold her for a few minutes I don’t care how long. Just make sure she falls asleep. If it’s a one night stand. Don’t throw your pants on and walk out the door. Trust me. Girls will kill themselves over that shit for months. So definitely not what you want to put a person through. You won’t even know you did it.

Look the simple fact of the matter is that while we may not admit it, ladies you hold all the answer and all the cards. If I want to get laid, it’s going to take you picking up your phone, or opening your legs. I can’t have sex by myself. I can but it’s really not as much fun. Point is that it takes two to tango and you should realize you have more if not all of the power. So choose wisely. Take the guys who are going to treat you right. The ones that after he’s done wooing you the way he can he will sit there and hold you for the next hour. Or throw on some shorts and cook you some eggs.

Honestly the one thing everyone here needs to realize is we’re all just people. We want to feel loved and we want to feel special. The emptiest we’re ever going to feel is that 5 seconds after sex. Trust me you know the feeling. All your endorphins just ran out, you’re tired, but fulfilled and for a second all the doubts and insecurities in your life creep in and you can’t figure out why. It’s strange isn’t it? That immediately following the best feeling in life you feel so empty and scared. Don’t worry everyone feels it. And it passes. It’s one of those things that is biological. You’re not crazy I promise.

The point I’m trying to make here is that we need to be a little bit more compassionate in life. We need to understand the things we do have real and direct consequences on other people. Take an extra minute or two and figure out the right way to do something. If it’s a difficult subject like ending a relationship, trust me do it the right way. At the end of the day you have lasting memories and bonds with people and the way you choose to break those bonds has lasting repercussions. I’m not preaching that you never have a one night stand. Or you never break up with a bf/gf. The only thing I am suggesting is be caring in the way you do it. At the end of the day you’re not the only one that has to live with your decisions. And the way you do it will have a lasting effect on not just you but someone else as well.

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by datingsagame on September 27, 2010  •  Permalink
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Posted by datingsagame on September 27, 2010

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